My father had a saying, "you make your own trouble". Your daily habits affect how much money you have in the bank, your physical shape and how much joy you have in your life. You have options. Take a look at the following eight habits that help cause misery in life. Do you have any of them? If you do, consider ditching them so that you can enjoy a happier life.
1. Making Assumptions
There's an old saying - when you assume things, you make an "ass" out of "u" and "me". Making assumptions is easy to do when we think we know what the answer or result is. Assumptions stop you from taking action and could destroy relationships. This is often the premise for many television sitcoms. One character assumes something and chaos ensues. And this happens in real life (maybe not as funny or extreme) but so many people do it. Here's an example - let's take someone named Jack. Jack hates his job and sees one he would love to have. But Jack doesn't have the confidence to apply for the job because he assumes he won't get it. So he doesn't apply for the better job. He stays in the job he doesn't like and is miserable never knowing if he would have gotten that better job.
2. Looking for Approval from Other People
The quickest way to being unhappy is to try and make everyone happy. If you keep asking for approval from other people, you will never get 100% agreement. Some will think your idea is great and others will think it sucks. Be confident in your decisions and move forward.
3. Don't Compare Yourself to Other People
Comparing yourself to others is a sure-fire way to be unhappy. There will always be someone who may appear to be better off than you - they may have a better car, a nicer house, in better shape, and so on. The only person you need to compare yourself to is you. If you are doing well, congratulations, pat yourself on the back and keep moving forward. If you aren't where you want or need to be, you still have some work to do.
4. Don't Waste Time
Face it, more people aren't born into wealth, have an I.Q. that would admit them to Mensa or look like a supermodel. But you have time, time to work at achieving what you want. Are you using your time wisely or are you wasting time? If you are wasting time or procrastinating you are short-changing yourself.
5. Stop Being Indecisive
If you're dithering on making a decision, you're really making a decision to do nothing. And that's how people stay stuck and watch life pass them by. Instead of dithering back and forth, just make a choice. Even if your choice isn't the best, it's better than doing nothing. If nothing else you will have learned something.
6. Prevent Perfectionism
There's a saying, "perfect is the enemy of the good". Good enough is never satisfactory to the perfectionist and is often a major cause of unhappiness. I remember a girl I went to school with who always did well on tests. I remember one day she was crying in class because she didn't get an A on a test. Having options on how to be happy is better than only having one. Wanting things to be perfect causes people to procrastinate. Decide on how well you want something to be and do it. You can always fine tune it later and work towards that perfect result later but at least you will have started.
7. Don't Underestimate Yourself
When something doesn't work out the way you hoped it easy to feel that you aren't good enough. This may cause you to lower your expectations. When you expect less of yourself, that's what you'll get. When something doesn't go the way it should, instead of getting down on yourself, remember the times you were successful. No one has failed at everything they have ever done. A dieter who has done well for several months and then falls off the wagon and eats too much hasn't failed. He/she had been successful for several months and had one little glitch and can be successful again. Think about a baby learning to walk. They pull themselves up and then fall down on their butt. Do they stay there and not try again and expect to be carried around for the rest of their life? Of course not - they keep trying. Be like that baby.
8. Stop Beating Yourself Up
Mistakes happen. When you make a mistake do you get down on yourself or do you treat the incident as a learning opportunity? If you beat yourself up, how productive is that? Are you happy? Probably not.
Here's the good news
If things aren't going well and you are feeling bad about it, what choice do you make? Do you blame others or yourself? If you blame others you will never move forward. If you blame yourself you are taking responsibility which means you can fix things and move forward and be successful. Which means you'll be happy. Changing the above mental habits will lead towards a happier life.
If you blame others you will never move forward. If you blame yourself you are taking responsibility which means you can fix things and move forward and be successful. Which means you'll be happy. Changing the above mental habits will lead towards a happier life.
If you blame yourself you are taking responsibility which means you can fix things and move forward and be successful. Which means you'll be happy. Changing the above mental habits will lead towards a happier life.
Changing the above mental habits will lead towards a happier life.